I was a really good gardener, until I had a garden.
Never in my entire adult life, have I been so consumed by weeds.
Perhaps growing up in Singapore, where the majority of us live in high-rise apartments, other than the ones in pots, I never had to consider the upkeep of a patch of greenery.
Living in Australia on and off for the past 9 years now, I find myself wondering if I’m not doing something right with my garden. I mean, I’m not growing anything spectacular (or anything, as a matter of fact). Somehow, weeds seem to blossom with rage in my garden.
I secretly wish there was something I could do, once and for all, to stop them from ruining my life.
I was told by my neighbor that “it’s an ongoing business.”
A Builder vs A Gardener
All analogies have a point. Somehow we were indoctrinated to a Builder’s mindset. Plan, develop and build it. Maintain. Done. This doesn’t seem to apply to the messy business of life.
Instead, we require more of a Gardener’s mindset. Scatter some seeds, nurture the soil, protect and water it; let it grow. Prune.
Even before I grow more stuff in my backyard, I need to fully appreciate the business of gardening, or rather, to weeding. Subtract, not add. (See Point #3 of this blog)
And then I can consider to add. Add stuff like mulch and plants, in order to subtract.
When we think of adding a new project, we must consider what we need to remove for the new ideas to grow. When you choose to focus on one aspect of your development as a therapist, be ready to weed out what is non-essential. And if things evolve, things change. Your learning edge will change.
The success of any deliberate practice efforts require deliberate subtraction.
Chase two rabbits, and you’d catch none.