“I Don’t Mean To Be Mean But…”
How is it possible that when we are not our best “therapeutic” self can lead to a good outcome? In the last post, Develop Good Taste, I talked about the benefits of listening to...
Category: Personalised Learning
Develop Good Taste
Before you can develop good abilities, you’ve got to develop good taste. If you want to develop as a musician, you’d want to develop an ear for music. You would then need to expose...
Obsession with Map Finding
We have an obsession with map finding. We think that if we search hard enough, we will correct the map that we have, and/or find the right map to rule them all. To see if this...
Navigation
They is alot to learn from navigating in nature and the nature of navigation. Navigating in Nature I recently discovered the work of master outdoorsman, expert natural navigator, and global adventurer, Tristan Gooley.[1] Maybe...
Caring For Those Who Care
A few years ago, I began to think about how we are caring for those who care. Maybe I was slow to fully realise this, but as I worked with others in the helping...
#9. A Hidden Discipline That Will Extend Your Mind
Welcome to Episode #9 of the Frontiers Podcast! In this episode, we have a special video version that comes with some cool visuals from the app that I was talking about. I believe one...
Looking Back at 2020
What’s essential is invisible to the eye. ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince. This is long overdue. It’s end of April 2021, and I’m only beginning to be able to look back at...
Peak Performance vs Typical Performance
Perhaps there is no bigger feat than taking on Mount Everest. The early pioneers like Sir Edmund Hilary have been recognised–and knighted–for conquering the highest peak in the world. [1] Peak performance is greatly...
Consistency
Being consistent means keeping a promise to yourself. When we are not consistent, we are breaking promises. We lose the power of our handshake agreements to ourselves. We lose the commitment of our word....
Listening Into Speech: Will Say, Won’t Say, Can’t Say.
A version of this first appeared in The Network of Alcohol and other Drugs Agencies (NADA) newsletter in 2020. NADA is the peak organisation for the non government alcohol and other drugs sector in NSW....
Adjustable Seats
In the 1950s, A fairly unusual be-spectacled and slender Lieutenant Gilbert Daniels was tasked to solve one of the biggest problems in the US Air Force. A botanical loving man, not the kind of...
We Don’t Know How to Rest
We don’t know how to rest. We think that resting is for the lazy, the inefficient and the ineffective. Yet when we think we are resting, our eyes are entranced by the endless scroll...
Outrospection
This originally appeared in the book, The First Kiss: Undoing the Intake Model and Igniting First Sessions in Psychotherapy, Chapter 19. “What is Your View of the Problem?” “Curiosity never killed the cat.” ~...
It’s Not About You.
One common advice that is often given to someone preparing for a speech is to rehearse in front of a mirror. This is one of those common wisdom that is not helpful. What happens...
#3. The Inevitable in Psychotherapy (Frontiers Radio)
The 9 Forces That Will Shape The Field of Psychotherapy… and Why This Matters to You. The actual path of a raindrop as it goes down the valley is unpredictable, but the general direction...
To Understand? Easy. To Help Someone Feel Understood? Difficult.
Recently, someone said something to me that cast doubt on my ability as a therapist. This person said, “It’s not that hard to help someone feel understood. With good eye contact, attentive listening sprinkled...
The Holy Grail of Learning
In more ways than one, therapists are bridge makers. Except that one of the greatest challenges is the process of bridging what we’ve learned into fruitfulness for our clients. Demis Hassabis, founder of the...
Extend Your Mind Using Knowledge Centralisation
After figuring a way to create space and protect deep learning, one of the biggest barriers in the deep learning process is that most of the knowledge acquired over time are not accessible in ...
A Deep Learner Needs a Möbius Strip
When I first heard about a “möbius strip” from writer Parker Palmer, I thought it was a name for a German freeway or something. The Smithsonian magazine explains that “a Möbius strip can be...
#5. When Performing Impedes Learning
For a video version of this episode, see below: “I spent half of my life lost in an education system that pushed for results and performance… and failed.. Even when I Began to perform...
A Deep Learner Needs Direction and Depth
School tells you what to learn. In real life, you have to figure out WHAT TO LEARN. In psychotherapy land, we are inundated with so many types of “whats and hows”, in the forms...
A Deep Learner Needs to Create Play
I believe that a good life is a deep life; it’s prerequisite is to be a deep learner. My job is to help practitioners become Deep Learners. This week, I want to take you...
10 Frontiers Problems to Solve
Date: 23rd June 2020. I started writing the first draft of this list of problems to solve in April 2019. There were like 15-17 problems at first… and that was more than a year...
Focus on What’s Not Going to Change
Here is Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, on the importance of what’s not going to change: I very frequently get the question: ‘What’s going to change in the next 10 years?’ And that is...
Protect Deep Learning
Participants from all over the globe have just completed the first two stages of the inaugural batch of the Deep Learner web-based workshop. Instead of just a bunch of pre-recorded lectures, Deep Learner is...
Homeschooling?
A Smorgasbord of Tips to Keep Your Kids Engaged, Learning and Connected During Home Isolation. Note: This article is cross-posted on two of my blog sites, Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development and Full Circles. While FPD aims...
Personal Learnings: Looking Back at 2019 in Order to Move Forward (Part II of II)
(Update 20 March 2020: Like other countries, Australia has now instituted a travel ban. COVID-19 has impacted so many families directly and indirectly. My thoughts and prayers go out to you). In the previous...
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