{"id":1359,"date":"2023-01-20T04:58:04","date_gmt":"2023-01-20T04:58:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/?p=1359"},"modified":"2024-03-13T11:36:46","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T11:36:46","slug":"fall-in-front-of-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/fall-in-front-of-others\/","title":{"rendered":"Fall in Front of Others"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-pm-slice=\"1 1 [&quot;orderedList&quot;,{&quot;start&quot;:3,&quot;order&quot;:3},&quot;listItem&quot;,null]\">I grew up skateboarding. It was my escape plan. It took me places. I learned mastery from skateboarding. I learned to hide injuries from my father, cos\u2019 the pain of the falls are less than the wrath of my father.<\/p>\n<p>I recently watched a video of a girl learning to do tricks on a skateboard over a 12-month period.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s incredible. It&#8217;s like watching a time-lapse video of a plant grow. She made incremental gains, some bad falls, and also some giant leaps.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1Em0hyjeP5c\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>But what was striking was the recurrent comments made by others about the video:<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1360\" src=\"http:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1384\" height=\"224\" srcset=\"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1.jpg 1998w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1-300x49.jpg 300w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1-768x125.jpg 768w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1-1024x166.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-1-676x110.jpg 676w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1384px) 100vw, 1384px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1361\" src=\"http:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"863\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2.jpg 1342w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2-300x83.jpg 300w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2-768x212.jpg 768w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2-1024x282.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-2-676x186.jpg 676w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 863px) 100vw, 863px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1362\" src=\"http:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2006\" height=\"402\" srcset=\"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3.jpg 2006w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3-300x60.jpg 300w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3-768x154.jpg 768w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3-1024x205.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Skate-Comments-3-676x135.jpg 676w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2006px) 100vw, 2006px\" \/><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>I worry that we have been hyper-conscious. In literal ways, the mirror is overy-reflected back on ourselves (Read this:<a href=\"http:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/point-your-camera-to-the-world\/\"> Point Your Camera to the World<\/a>). We can&#8217;t help but obsess about how our hair looks on a Zoom call.<\/p>\n<p>An aside: This is also why if you are learning to practice a speech, despite conventional wisdom, the worse thing to do is to practice in front of a mirror. The focus isn&#8217;t about you. It&#8217;s your audience.<\/p>\n<p>We all need to find a way to lose ourselves, and get deeply engaged into things that make us come alive.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s one my best mates, psychologist and ex-Navy officer, Eng Chuan, \u00a0learning to skateboard at age 57.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/3S_r6H3tTSk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,3],"tags":[125,132,131],"class_list":["post-1359","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psychological","category-reflections","tag-come-alive","tag-courage","tag-social-anxiety","post-preview"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1359","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1359"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1359\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1495,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1359\/revisions\/1495"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1359"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1359"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/darylchow.com\/fullcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1359"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}