Some of our most painful wounds are invisible.
Many of us not only carry them throughout our lives, but we bag them up and lug them like dirty laundry. We walk around as if one shouldn’t have clothes to wash, and silently seeking a place to find solace and relief from these painful and intense emotions.
These difficult emotions often manifest from
Experiences of violence
Imposition by others on how you should lead your life
If you live long enough, you are bound to have these happen to you.
It is also our rejection of these emotional experiences “I shouldn’t feel this way,” that causes more suffering.
We need to find a way to soothe and heal from these invisible painful emotions. Not in solitude, but with companions. As Thomas Merton would say, “Suffering is wasted when we suffer entirely alone.” (No Man is An Island, p. 85).
We must learn to not “harden our hearts” but to find a quality of grace and tenderness for those who suffer in way that our eyes can’t see—and that includes ourselves.