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I was a really good gardener, until I had a garden.

Never in my entire adult life, have I been so consumed by weeds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps growing up in Singapore, where the majority of us live in high-rise apartments, other than the ones in pots, I never had to consider the upkeep of a patch of greenery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Living in Australia on and off for the past 9 years now, I find myself wondering if I’m not doing something right with my garden. I mean, I’m not growing anything spectacular (or anything, as a matter of fact). Somehow, weeds seem to blossom with rage in my garden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I secretly wish there was something I could do, once and for all, to stop them from ruining my life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was told by my neighbor that “it’s an ongoing business.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Builder vs A Gardener<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

All analogies have a point. Somehow we were indoctrinated to a Builder’s mindset<\/strong>. Plan, develop and build it. Maintain. Done. This doesn’t seem to apply to the messy business of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, we require more of a Gardener’s mindset<\/strong>. Scatter some seeds, nurture the soil, protect and water it; let it grow. Prune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even before I grow more stuff in my backyard, I need to fully appreciate the business of gardening, or rather, to weeding. Subtract, not add. (See Point #3 of this blog<\/a>) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then I can consider to add. Add stuff like mulch and plants, in order to subtract.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we think of adding a new project, we must consider what we need to remove for the new ideas to grow. When you choose to focus on one aspect of your development as a therapist, be ready to weed out what is non-essential. And if things evolve, things change. Your learning edge will change.

The success of any deliberate practice<\/a> efforts require deliberate subtraction.

Chase two rabbits, and you’d catch none.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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