“Thus we are busy people just like all other busy people, rewarded for the rewards which are rewarded to busy people.”
– Henri Nouwen, from The Way Of The Heart, p.22.
I struggle with this all the time. Yet It is crucial to schedule time for ourselves. We know how important this is, but often more pressing issues get the better of our attention. It’s so easy to be drawn to busy-ness. But if our development is prized, we must devote a portion of our time to it. If we left it to, “I’d catch up on it when I get the time,” or “I’d squeeze so time in-between my work,” chances are, you won’t have the time. (See Cal Newport’s take on deep and intense work.)
If left to my own device, without any structured automation or scheduling, I probably spend more than 90 percent of the time trying to catch up on demands from other people, leaving little time – and energy – to work on what really matters.
In you weekly planner, schedule at least one hour of the week called “MMI” Meeting (Me-Myself-&-I). You don’t have to explain to others what this stand for. If you can, get away your usual office space (“where are you going,” asks the inqusitive colleague. You reply, “I got a meeting to attend.”). If you are in private practice, book yourself in at the least scheduled hour by your clients. This is your protected time towards self-development. It is what Moore-Edd calls your “time cocoon.”
In this weekly hour of “MMI”, you’d devote towards one of the following things:
– Watch therapy videos of others;
– Review your recordings of your session;
– Reflect on your recent sessions;
– listen to a piece of music, with your full singular attention through to the end of the piece;
– Take a walk; and/or
– Take a nap (seriously).
What Not to do:
– Check your emails (in fact, do not leave your email application on);
– Play with your smartphone;
– think about how great having MMI meetings might be;
– have a guilt trip while you have a MMI meeting;
– See more clients.
I can’t have said it better than Wayne Muller, the author of a book, Sabbath:
“The busier we are, the more important we seem to ourselves, and, we imagine, to others. To be unavailable to our friends and family, to be unable to find time for the sunset (or even to know the sun at all), to whiz through our obligations without time for a mindful breath, this has become the model of a successful life.”